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Presented to fulfill Cross Cultural Understanding Assignment
Lecturer: Mulyadi, SS., M.Pd.
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ENGLISH TEACHING
LEARNING PROGRAM
TARBIYAH DEPARTMENT
STATE
ISLAMIC INSTITUTE OF MADURA
2018INTRODUCTION
Social beings is marked to everyone who lives in the
world. There is no people in this world can live alone, because we are as
social beings surely need other people. We need other to do many things. We
have family, friends and other to live easily in the world. We fulfill our need
by doing an interaction with other people such as having fun with our family or
we go to school to study and meet our friends there. Not only friend and family
we need but also stranger like a seller in the market or a doctor in the
hospital and others.
As social beings,
we are potential to be close with other people. Everyone
certainly has
friend in their life. Friends are someone who
will be there for us in every condition. They can be looked up to and trusted. They
are the people who encourage us to make the right choices and do not get into
any trouble at all.
Friendship is
exist all around the world. Each country has their own manner in kepping
relation with their friends. In this case, culture has a crussial role in
friendship ethics. Culture will influence the ethics how we intract with our
friend. We will talk more about friendship in next pages.
DISCUSSION
- Definition
According to Aristoteles friendship is interpersonal
relationship in which people voluntarily interact bringing joy to each other and
rewarding feelings about ourselve.[1]
Based on Oxford
Dictionary, Friendship is the emotions or
conduct of friends; the state of being friends.[2]
So, we can conclude that friendship is a
relationship between us and other people which the relationship happen voluntarily and give the enjoyment to each other.
- Kinds
of Friend in America
·
Old Friend
Old Friend is who you had a great
connection with once but you no longer need to feel guity about not hanging out
with. You had your time together in a spesific part of your life. This old friend meaning they are not old in age but they
are friends from the past.
·
Maintennance Friend
Who you keep in touch with once or a few
times per years just to “maintain” the connection. Set these folks up on
reminders in your calendar but do not feel so bad you do not connect more.
·
Growth Friends
Who you continually deepen relationships
with today and in the future. These are great friends you want more time and
adventure with them.[3]
- Kinds of
Friend in Madura
·
Close Friend
Close Friend is a friend that is very
close with you and they often assist in your life. Usually they more respect
than others and also they know more who you are than others. And old friends
here similar with your sister or brother which we must protect and help each
other.
·
Common Friend
Common Friend is a friend is not too
close with you. You and them just know what should you and them know not more
than that. Usually common friend just come or assist when they have some
important to you. [4]
- Friendship
Manner in America
Ø
Keep space
In American culture, when you want to
make a conversation with your friend you must keep a space with them or do not
get too close. Because if you don’t do that your friend will slowly backing
away.
Ø
Do not interrupt
In American culture, especially in speaking, when you are talking with your
friend, you can not interrupt them, because it
means that you are impolite and also it will be difficult to understand.
Ø
Don’t be too expressive with your
hands
When you make a conversation with your
friends, do not let your hands often move, because your friend will think that
you are aggressive.
Ø Eye
contact
Eye contact is
usually important when you speak with americans. But, if your aye contact focus
on your friends only during you are talking with them, they will be
uncomfortable and they will think what exatcly happend with them.[5]
- Friendship Manner in Madura
Ø
Keep space
Madurese usually keep space when they
talk to their friends. Especially for female to male, they will feel
unconfortable when they talk very close. Because
madurese is influenced by their religion.
Ø
Do not interrupt
In Madura, when you make a conversation
with madurese, you can not interrupt them when they are talking. Because it
will make them feel annoyed and also it will make you be impolite to them.
Ø Being
expressive with your hands
In Madura, when you want to talk
somethin or want to describe or tell something to your friend, it is really
efisien if you use your hands to describe it, because it will make the madurese
easier to understand and it will make you more interesting when
you talk with your gesture.
Ø
Eye contact
When you are talking with madurese your
eye contact must focus on to their eyes, so that they will feel that you are
listening to them, but if you see to another place when the madurese are
talking, they will feel that you ignore them.[6]
- Ethics of
keeping friendship relation
Ø
Respect to Each Other
To keep friendship
relation well, it
is very important to respect each other, because it is one of friendship ethics. We have to be
polite in
behavior and good manner in act.
Ø
Help each other
We as a friend must help each other when
our friend in difficult situation or need our help. In this act we must be
sincere, we must help them sincerely.
Ø
Keep in touch
One way to keep our relation with our
friend is always keeping in touch with them. It means that we will never loose
our friend if we keep our communication well with them
Ø Keep
The Privacy
When you make a friend with someone, you
must know what you should do or not. Eventhough you have become a friend, it
does not mean that you must know everything about your friend, because everyone
have their own privacy to keep.
CONCLUSION
To keep good
relation in friendship is very important, because usually we need friendship in
a long time. The way to keep the relation in friendship use
friendship ethics, such as:
a)
Respect to each other
b)
Help each other
c)
Keep in touch
And
also we can use friendship manner, such as:
a)
Keep space
b)
Do not interrupt
c)
Gesture
d)
Eye contact
Whatever the culture and the place the most
important thing to keep the relation in friendship are:
be polite and be kind. With good behaviour you can
make a friend with all the people in this world. But do not forget that the
culture in every country is different. So that, here we need to learn every
culture in each country and learn the ethics in friendship in each country.
REFERENCES
Richard, Kraut. ”Aristoteles
Ethics”. Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy. Stanford
University, 01 May 2001.
Oxford Advanced Learner’s. Oxford: Oxford
University Press, 2005.
Fawaid, Ahmad. Lecture in IAIN Madura. Conversation
Chatting In Whatshapp.
Jakfar,
Amin. Student in IAIN Madura,; Interview.
[1] Kraut Richard, ”Aristoteles Ethics”.
Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy. Stanford University, 01 May 2001.
[2] Oxford Advanced Learner’s (Oxford: Oxford
University Press, 2005).
[4] Ahmad Fawaid, Lecture in IAIN Madura,
Conversation Chatting In Whatshapp.
[6] Amin Jakfar, Student in IAIN Madura,;
Interview.
